The Words We Speak

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by RI Editors

Today’s post in our General Conference Discussion comes from Angie. She commented:

Sister Wixom’s talk was a direct (and painful) answer to prayer for me. We have been struggling with the distinct lack of peace in our home. Even my mother (at 3,000 miles away) felt the need to call and tell me I yell too much. So to have S. Wixom’s talk open with an admonition for a still voice of perfect mildness and then to proceed to outline every aspect of my home that isn’t working and how the inner light of children is dimming was painful counsel to hear. But, that’s often how counsel precisely for me feels. But some of the subsequent talks helped me to take that counsel in a more productive light.

Taken in single doses some talks can pierce us to the center, while others speak with such great love and tenderness that we wonder how we could ever rebel against God. The overall tone of General Conference seems to be perfectly balanced, with enough pricks of conscience to know what to work on, and enough verbal hugs that we feel encouraged to go on. (Watching it as a whole is a better experience for me than viewing it piecemeal because of this.)

If you feel it’s appropriate to share, after watching conference what did you feel impressed to improve and what words specifically encouraged you?

What did you find noteworthy in Sister Wixom’s talk?

If you’d like to start a forum discussion about a different talk please leave a comment on the original post: Reader Led General Conference Discussion. We’re nearing the end, so comment now if we’ve missed your favorite!


2 Responses to The Words We Speak

  1. Bonnie says:

    My oldest, who has given birth to my two beautiful grandchildren, has struggled with children who have had more emotional needs than some. Her first was frightened of life, and could easily be sent into paroxysms of terror at the slightest things. Her next has taken life by the tail – loudly. It has been a baptism by fire for someone who has always been a very peaceful person, treasuring quiet and harmony.

    She has recently been reading and applying the wonderful principles in Parenting through Love and Logic, and has found that this approach allows her to have a much greater degree of peace in her home. It has been contagious to me as well, although at one time I employed those same principles. We can lose some of our habits, even the deeply ingrained ones. I have also been thinking a great deal about transformation, and how life is much more about that than comfort. Leaning into our experiences with faith produces transformation, a kind of spiritual love and logic.

    I felt that as I listened to her talk. It was an affirmation that we are both on the right track with the changes we’ve been making. That’s a good feeling.

  2. Paul says:

    Training to be a parent is a life-long process, one that includes many bumps and bruises for parents and children along the way. That any of us survive is a testament to our resilience as a species!

    I was the youngest in my family and had little knowledge of babies and child development when my children started to come. Add to that the fact that my lovely wife and I were very young parents when our first one came along. My mother’s kind advice to “trust my instincts” was inadequate (I told her my instinct was to call her!). And it took years to undo some of the damage from my early years of parenting.

    Even three decades later I’m still stung by talks like Sister Wixom’s (stung in a good way — it was a great talk and one I needed to hear) as I continue to try to develop the skills I need as a Dad.

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