Not Perfect, Still the Best

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by RI Editors

After Paul’s post yesterday about the difficulties of adjusting to fatherhood, I started to wonder how a father can overcome all of those difficulties to become the stuff of legend. No man can be all things to all people, or all children, but surely there are a few qualities that can endear him to the hearts of his children while his laundry skills are lacking. What are the special qualities of a good father, even if still an imperfect man?

What qualities and attributes do special men in your life have that make them great fathers?

What things have you worked on as a father to become a better one?

5 Responses to Not Perfect, Still the Best

  1. Paul says:

    My dad was not a perfect man, but he was constant. He was often not home, but he was always “there” for us. More than once he stepped off a plane an into our high school auditorium to hear a play or concert, but more than that, he was a constant force in our family — reliable, dependable, “true.”

    My perception is that he never claimed to know more than he really knew, in or out of the gospel. He approached his faith humbly. He regularly sent us from the dinner table to the encyclopedia to check a fact from a discussion we were having.

    He was patient, but not infinitely so. He was, from my point of view, a boring high council speaker (though years later I learned how many people in our stake loved him). He was not afraid of hard work.

    He was kind, even in his decline in old age: he had a kind word or a joke for those who cared for him.

  2. MSKeller says:

    I could begin the same as Paul. My dad was not a perfect man, but honestly, I liked it that way. My memories are good ones, and what made him ‘perfect’ for me, is that his love WAS perfect. He loved me unfailingly. He may have made me mad, he may have irritated me and confused me and argued with me and discliplined me differently than I thought wise. He may have made choices I wouldn’t have made, but he was my biggest fan, my lap when I needed to cry and my knight in shinning armor when my world was teetering.

    When people talk about my dad, they say, “He was such a kind man.” When I was growning up, that may not have been my ‘in a nut-shell’ description, but mine was infinately more important for me. He loved me completely, I never once doubted that. There is vast power in that knowledge, that somewhere, there is someone, that loves you, no matter what.

  3. templegoer says:

    I so agree Ms Keller, and a type of our Heavenly Father in his constancy. I think that’s what my kids will take from their Dad.

  4. Cheryl says:

    My father, even though a great man (as I wrote in my essay), was not perfect –of course he wasn’t. I don’t think it’s possible, eh?

    My husband is very different from my father in a lot of ways, but he’s still an incredible father and a good, good man. I think that’s what I love the most about the good men in my life (my grandfathers, uncles, brothers, etc.) is that they are all different and unique. Kind, hard workers, and loving –good, good men.

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