Adult Sharing Time

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by RI Editors

We like to keep things positive here at Real Intent, trying to avoid anything that looks like a gripe session. But we are interested in the trials you face and the questions you have.

If you’ll share with us a simple description of issues you would like us to address or questions you would like answered we will better be able to present material that is pertinent to your life and all readers.

What are, or have been, the trials of your faith?

Are there doctrines that you struggle to understand or incorporate into your life?

8 Responses to Adult Sharing Time

  1. Anon says:

    Blessings that did not come to pass. Example: during a troubled pregnancy receiving a priesthood blessing that everything would be done and I’d deliver a healthy baby that would be an important part of our family. I’ve struggled o believe in priesthood blessings ever since.

    • Sundy DeGooyer says:

      I had a similar experience and feel the same way. I wonder why my baby wasn’t born when the spirit was so strong in the priesthood blessing that he/she would be.

  2. SilverRain says:

    Workings of the Spirit. It seems that many people have a hard time discerning between Spiritual promptings and personal desires. So often, people think personal promptings trump prophetic counsel on the general level, rather than only on the personal level. I would like to hear posts regarding individual’s personal struggles to attune to and understand communication from Deity.

    I would broaden the above suggestion from others to Spiritual disappointment in general. Obviously, the doctrine of eternal marriage is something I struggle with, especially given the things I was promised in my Patriarchal blessing. It would be powerful to hear how others have worked through such disappointment and obtained peace.

  3. Susanne says:

    I have always had a strong testimony of my Savior – and I expect I always will! I have had my faith shaken a few times because of things I’ve learned about the early church, i.e. Joseph Smith’s polyandry, and much of Brigham Young’s dogma – especially the changes he made regarding priesthood for those of black descent.

    Probably the most discouragement I’ve ever felt with the Plan of Salvation has been because of the choices of my children. As they have become adults, all 3 have married non members, one has chosen to live adulterously in a so-called ‘open marriage,’ one has had her children baptized, but does not live the gospel and is not teaching her children the gospel, and the only one who even attends church at all seems to think that since she’s managed to get her husband to convert (he’s the only spouse that is a member) and they have been sealed in the temple that that’s all they have to do.

    Though my husband and I were married in the temple and have always been active, my husband has nearly always struggled with his testimony and has never been fully committed to the gospel and serving in the church, although he doesn’t break any commandments, per se. He is the ultimate fence sitter and only goes through the motions. He tells me he doesn’t know what he believes and he shares that with his priesthood leaders, too, but I can’t see him making any real efforts to find out one way or the other. (If he doesn’t have a testimony, he doesn’t have to do all that is required, you know?)

    All of this leads me to the discouragement part . . . I keep doing my best . . . nevertheless, I feel I will be alone in the celestial kingdom (if I can even make it there . . . which I’m trying very hard to do). How much of a happiness will it be if none of my family are there with me?! They all seem content with the status quo and never having to push themselves to improve. It makes me incredibly sad.

    I know, I know, I have to keep enduring on and hoping that they will repent and/or gain a true testimony. I GET THAT. And I’m doing it. It still causes me considerable anguish, though, and seriously undermines my faith sometimes.

    So there you have it . . . if you can make something out of this, I would be incredibly grateful for insights. 🙂

  4. templegoer says:

    I’ve become discouraged about any sense of certainty that either I or others have, and whenever I hear it in others my hackles rise. As you can imagine, that does not make it easy for me to attend church on a Sunday. I find it really uncomfortable to be around those who do experience certainty, or faith perhaps as they might see it. What I have taught my children seems to have been offensive to them, and become a stumbling block in their lives. Those who are certain often simply succeed in being offensive to others, insensitive to the nuances of human experience.
    Mostly I am OK about scripture, but my prayers have become increasingly ‘whatever’ as mostly I seem to be wrong about most stuff. It seems to me that I really have no monopoly on righteousness as a consequence of obedience, and that I must increasingly accept that this is the way it is. And if that’s the case, what has been the point?
    The only answer I can find is that this is what God has asked of me, and perhaps it is not required of others to do the same. Kind of ‘the Lord causeth it to rain on the just and the unjust’.
    Maybe that’s one big adolescent ‘it isn’t fair’. If it is, then I must be sorely trying God’s patience.

  5. Paul says:

    I love these suggestions! Thanks so much to those of you willing to share them. I find myself nodding as I read along.

    (I’m reminded of something my wife has observed about her Relief Society experience: the level of participation of sisters in the lessons seems inversely proportional to their age and “real life” experience as parents. As we mature, we confront face to face the harsh realities of this cold and cruel world. Life is no place for sissies, that’s for sure.)

    Playing on a theme that Silver Rain mentioned above, I’d add this perspective: how do we account for different answers to similar questions? For example, one person reads, ponders and prays and receives a testimony; the other doesn’t, yet appears to have made the same effort.

    • In that same vein, how do you reconcile different answers to the same question to people with the same stewardship (marriage, councils, etc)?

      • Nick Galieti says:

        One or both of them can be misinterpreting the answer, or taking their own desires to be equal to God’s. Sometimes there are multiple ways that are agreeable to God. I would also say that because much of inspiration comes in the study of the subject or the task and seeking a confirmation of the spirit for any given question. Some simply do not take the time to do that research and while they have prayed, there is nothing to say that they have taken the time to qualify themselves for an answer.

        Even Joseph Smith prayed several times regarding giving the 116 pages of the manuscript to Martin Harris. One could argue that God’s answer didn’t ever really change, but Joseph, through the pressures of his peers, and perhaps to a certain degree, the desire of his own heart to get Martin off his back, felt differently the third time. Joseph was very young in the revelatory process and was learning many things regarding personal revelation. It is not uncommon then to think that others will misinterpret different answers to the same question.

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