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New Year’s Resolutions, Getting Healthy, and Your Word of Wisdom

by Bonnie

tired-fitness-womanWe are three weeks into the New Year, just past that magic 21-days-to-establish-a-new-habit threshold, and facing the fact that, statistically, about 80% of new gym members in January quit going by mid-February and more than 50% of people have failed at their resolutions generally. Overall statistics vary but the number of the apparently 40-50% of people who make New Year’s resolutions annually who commit to health goals is between 40 and 50% of that total. We have a common interest in improving our health but a great deal of difficulty doing so. Why is that?

Psychologist Peter Herman identifies this phenomenon as “false hope syndrome” and says, “their resolution is significantly unrealistic and out of alignment with their internal view of themselves,” leaving many people in a worse position by the end of the year than the circumstance that prompted their valiant but brief effort the year before. Finding that alignment between internal view and resolution to progress has been a focus for me in recent years so I’ve gathered some thoughts.

Since fitness hopes are the most common commitments made (and broken) annually (and because it has been a personal struggle for me) I’ve spent a good part of my 30 years of adulthood studying the way the body works. Given the mind-numbing plethora of contradictory but each scientifically-backed our-way-is-the-only-way patterns for perfect health out there, where does the genuine seeker for health improvement (whether that is weight loss, blood panel balancing, condition reversal, or strength/endurance training) turn? (more…)

Three Rules for Children to Follow when Fighting

by Katy Skinner

On Fighting Between Siblings

two girls holding hands

When my children fight, my goal is to teach them how to take care of it themselves.  They will not always have me with them.  The bonus, of course, is that my own life is more peaceful.  It also removes the motivation to argue in order to get mom’s attention, which is important.

When mom becomes the judge, the child’s whole motivation can change.  They are no longer arguing about who gets to play with the doll, but who does mom love?

Notice I didn’t say, who does mom love best?  No.  If you side with Child 1, you love Child 1 and do not love Child 2.  This is how my kids interpret it, I guarantee it.  So, naturally, the arguing escalates astronomically.  It hits them in the heart much more than whatever the initial argument was about and so they will fight much more aggressively.  Notably, losing truly will be the tragedy they say it is. (more…)

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