by Nick Galieti
I travel quite a bit with my job which affords me many opportunities for exposure to people from all over the United States as well as other countries. I wear a wedding ring which historically has been an indication that a person is married, or at least wants to appear married. On a recent flight from Salt Lake City to Hawaii I sat next to a woman that identified herself as a life long Utahan, specifically from the Logan/Cache Valley area of Utah. Our flight had a slight delay in take off so we started engaging in conversation about home towns, past travels, and our families.
At a particular point in the conversation this woman asked me, “I see (pointing at my wedding ring) that you are married.”
“Yep.” I said with a hint of pride.
She hesitantly and gently asked, “To a man or woman?”
“Excuse me?” I responded wondering if I heard her question correctly.
“Well, you never know these days and I don’t want to assume and offend someone.”
I suppose the context of this goes to the fact that in the last couple of weeks before this conversation a Federal appeals court struct down the ban on gay marriage in the State of Utah. So, in her defense it was a legally legitimate question as the possibility is live for same sex marriage even in Utah.
However, that was the first time I had ever been asked to clarify wether I was married a man or woman. I have thought about it since and while I didn’t feel that this persons question was ill-intentioned, I wonder if that is a question that is socially acceptable to ask?
So in a generic way I pose that question to you the reader of this article? Is that socially acceptable to ask? Is such a question similar to asking “so who do you have sex with?” Or is it simply just decent curiosity to know more about the person with whom they are conversing.”
I was fairly interested in receiving this book, since my leanings are significantly more towards the science and logic parts of life than the faith based intellect. I wish I had the spiritual gift of faith, but I really do not. My faith has come through struggle, study, putting unresolved questions on a shelf to be revisited later with new eyes and wisdom.
Being a fairly substantial book with 523 pages including an extensive index, glossary , bibliography and three Appendixes, it would take many words to share my thoughts and insights. Therefore, I’ll simply take a FEW, with emphasis on the few, of them and share as a taste of why I think that anyone who has difficulty with one of any of the questions between science and sacred records, ought to read this book; and I do believe it will benefit anyone with some of those questions.
- Carbon Dating
- Comets, Asteroids and Meteorites
- Continental Drift
- The Flood
His sources are thoroughly vetted and he has done his homework. His manner of writing really pressed me to ask my own questions instead of the sort that just tells you ‘such and such’ is truth and you simply have no option but to see things the way of the author. He feels more like a mentor who is asking questions still, and finding more information that deserves the light of day. I like that. I detest being told what to think or how to go about forming an opinion.
This could well-summarize much of the main ideas behind all the facts Barker deliciously and forthrightly offers. From John Widtsoe – Evidences and Reconciliations p 153 –
“The failure to differentiate between facts and inferences is the most grievous and the most common sin of scientists.”
Oct 21, 2014
Are you married to a man or woman?
Jul 1, 2014
Science and Religion – Reconciling the Conflicts by David M. Barker
Jun 26, 2014
I am Woman
Jun 19, 2014
Is John Dehlin like unto King Saul?: Reflections on orthodoxy and dissent
Mar 15, 2014
The Lost Teachings of Jesus on the Sacred Place of Women Review
Feb 7, 2014
Jan 31, 2014
Will Is Not Enough
Jan 26, 2014
The Cause of Christians
Jan 23, 2014
Why Fight It?
Dec 20, 2013
I Feel Sorry For Mean People
Dec 18, 2013
Dec 13, 2013
In Wisdom and Order: A Book Review
Nov 25, 2013
I Will Lead You Along: The Life of Henry B. Eyring A Book Review
Nov 11, 2013
Faith to Forgive Grievous Harms: Accepting the Atonement as Restitution
Nov 10, 2013
And They Were Not Ashamed
Nov 7, 2013
Nov 5, 2013
Vignettes from Earth’s Oldest Records
Nov 4, 2013
Follow Me To Zion
Nov 2, 2013
Sometimes What We Really Need Is a Story
Oct 27, 2013
Heavenly Salutations: Mrs. God
Oct 27, 2013
Keeping Our Covenants With A Loaf of Bread
Oct 20, 2013
We Will Remember
Oct 19, 2013
Into the Wilderness
Oct 16, 2013
Consider the Blessings Book Review
Oct 11, 2013
15 Things to give up to be happy series – 3. – Give up on Blame
Oct 3, 2013
Charity, Women, and Priesthood