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Are you married to a man or woman?

by Nick Galieti

I travel quite a bit with my job which affords me many opportunities for exposure to people from all over the United States as well as other countries. I wear a wedding ring which historically has been an indication that a person is married, or at least wants to appear married. On a recent flight from Salt Lake City to Hawaii I sat next to a woman that identified herself as a life long Utahan, specifically from the Logan/Cache Valley area of Utah. Our flight had a slight delay in take off so we started engaging in conversation about home towns, past travels, and our families.

At a particular point in the conversation this woman asked me, “I see (pointing at my wedding ring) that you are married.”

“Yep.” I said with a hint of pride.

She hesitantly and gently asked, “To a man or woman?”

“Excuse me?” I responded wondering if I heard her question correctly.

“Well, you never know these days and I don’t want to assume and offend someone.”

I suppose the context of this goes to the fact that in the last couple of weeks before this conversation a Federal appeals court struct down the ban on gay marriage in the State of Utah. So, in her defense it was a legally legitimate question as the possibility is live for same sex marriage even in Utah.

However, that was the first time I had ever been asked to clarify wether I was married a man or woman. I have thought about it since and while I didn’t feel that this persons question was ill-intentioned, I wonder if that is a question that is socially acceptable to ask?

So in a generic way I pose that question to you the reader of this article? Is that socially acceptable to ask? Is such a question similar to asking “so who do you have sex with?” Or is it simply just decent curiosity to know more about the person with whom they are conversing.”

Science and Religion – Reconciling the Conflicts by David M. Barker

by MSKeller


You can Check it out here.

I was fairly interested in receiving this book, since my leanings are significantly more towards the science and logic parts of life than the faith based intellect.  I wish I had the spiritual gift of faith, but I really do not. My faith has come through struggle, study, putting unresolved questions on a shelf to be revisited later with new eyes and wisdom.

Being a fairly substantial book with 523 pages including an extensive index, glossary , bibliography and three Appendixes, it would take many words to share my thoughts and insights.  Therefore, I’ll simply take a FEW, with emphasis on the few, of them and share as a taste of why I think that anyone who has difficulty with one of any of the questions between science and sacred records, ought to read this book; and I do believe it will benefit anyone with some of those questions.

Science-Religion-Reconciling-David-BarkerA few bullet point topics that David covers:

  • Carbon Dating
  • Comets, Asteroids and Meteorites
  • Continental Drift
  • The Flood
  • Geology
  • Evolution
  • Astronomy

His sources are thoroughly vetted and he has done his homework.  His manner of writing really pressed me to ask my own questions instead of the sort that just tells you ‘such and such’ is truth and you simply have no option but to see things the way of the author.  He feels more like a mentor who is asking questions still, and finding more information that deserves the light of day.  I like that.  I detest being told what to think or how to go about forming an opinion.

This could well-summarize much of the main ideas behind all the facts Barker deliciously and forthrightly offers.  From John Widtsoe – Evidences and Reconciliations p 153 –

“The failure to differentiate between facts and inferences is the most grievous and the most common sin of scientists.”



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